Long Distance Dating Tips for Men

Long-distance relationships are probably the hardest to maintain, mainly because of the distance between the two people in it.

A lot of people cannot handle the distance and grow apart, while others do their best to make it work.

For the men that are willing to do their best to make their long-distance relationships work, there are a few things they need to do. One of the best ways to do that is to ask good questions.

Establishing Ground Rules

This is probably the most important part of long-distance relationships, and also a big reason a lot of long-distance relationships don’t work out.

Both partners have to decide if they are going to remain exclusive, or if they are going to date, other people. It is important to establish this because ignoring it will lead to someone hurting the other person’s feelings.

He may think they are exclusive and not sleep around while she may think they aren’t exclusive and sleep around. Having a conversation about it prevents any misunderstandings.

Video Chatting

This obviously is not the same as physically being with the person they are in a relationship with, but it is better than the alternative which is talking over the phone.

There are a lot of ways to video chat these days, using apps like Skype and FaceTime, all they need is an internet connection which is available almost everywhere in the world.

The advances in technology also make it easier for long-distance couples to be intimate with one another, before video chatting, the only way couples could be intimate was with phone sex, now they have the ability to see each other. It isn’t the same thing as being physically together, but it is better than nothing.

Frequent Visits

Phone calls and Video chats can only do so much, to maintain a strong long-distance relationship; the couple must make an effort to see each other as frequently as possible.

Not physically seeing each other might make one of the people in the relationship or both not really feel they are in a relationship because they don’t see each other very often, that is why it is important for a couple to visit each other as much as possible, they can even alternate visits so it doesn’t seem like there is only one person trying hard to make the relationship work. 

Surprise Gifts

These could be her favorite shirt or toy, or some flowers and chocolates when she least expects, to let her know her man is thinking of her.


This is one of the hardest parts of long-distance relationships, it is easier if the distance is a temporary thing like a summer abroad if it is a permanent move like a job offer in another city or country, the couple needs to seriously evaluate their relationship and decide what the next step is.

If they are both fully invested in the relationship, and can’t make it work long-distance for an extended amount of time, the other person can start looking for a job in the new location, which is probably the only way they can keep the relationship going.

Deborah Szekely

Deborah Szekely is an activist, entrepreneur, James Beard-nominated author, former diplomat, and the planter of North America’s first modern organic garden.